Shepherd to Shepherd

When Men Have Miscarriages

It is estimated that nearly half of all pregnancies will end in miscarriage. This is devastating for the couple as they endure the loss of their unborn child. For men however, there is often a silent pain that is never expressed or acknowledged. In “When Men Have Miscarriages,” Dave shares his family's journey through multiple miscarriages. It is meant to be an encouragement and help to the thousands of men who have dealt with the trauma of miscarriage in silence. The book is real, it is raw, and it is relevant. Dave's heart is that the book brings a topic to the table that for years has needed to be discussed and will allow the conversation to move forward with grace.

ENDORSEMENtS

“Dave Deets has written an insightful book that should have been written years ago. In a clear and down-to-earth style, Dave addresses the hard questions of men who go through miscarriage in a way that will not only help them, but ultimately serves the couple well. Every pastor should have this on their shelf.” - David Whitaker President, Venture Church Network

“When men go through difficulties or struggles, they tend to clam up, put their head down, and with a clenched jaw walk forward in silence. This book opens the heart, raises the head, and softens the silence with honest and humorous wisdom from one who has experienced struggles. If you want help in a very different way, take some time and read this, not just for yourself but also for others you will meet along your path. Enjoy.” - Pastor Will Lohnes, Lead Pastor, Hope Chapel, Greer, SC

This book is intensely personal. Dave, with the permission of his wife and children, welcomes you into the hospital room and the ultrasounds. I trust that this will be used of the Lord to help men work through these difficult and challenging days.” – Pastor Chad DeJong, Pastor, Byron Center Bible Church, Byron Center, MI

Reviews

“This book is a balm for the hurting, a salve for the soul and I cannot say strongly enough how much I would recommend it to every pastor, small group leader, church leader, and every couple who experiences the devastation of miscarriage. Even now, years after our miscarriages, it has ministered to me and enabled me to lovingly shepherd my wife (and our other children) with grace and truth.”

“This was an excellent resource on a topic that is rarely, if ever, addressed: how do I as a husband handle a miscarriage? Dave, in a pastoral and relatable manner, brings a wealth of personal testimony and Biblical perspective to this issue. You will find touching stories, practical wisdom, and Godly counsel for yourself and/or others. I am grateful for this resource and thankful for Dave’s courage to work through the challenges associated with miscarriage.”

“Dr. Deets empathetically addresses the emotions and struggles that men have when their spouses miscarry. How do men deal with the pain of losing a child? Having experienced his wife's miscarriage, Dave speaks from experience. I highly recommend this book and will be giving it to my friends who are experiencing this pain.”

“While I am a newly-wed, and don't yet have children, I found this book informative and illuminating. The addendum for pastors, especially, was personally profitable. I feel more equipped to shepherd my people through miscarriage.”

The Importance of Understanding and Embracing Your Ministry Identity

The Importance of Understanding and Embracing Your Ministry Identity

In our pursuit of serving biblical leaders, we are starting several series of practical articles covering a variety of topics helpful for ministry leaders. Today’s article is the first in a series called Shepherd to Shepherd. This series will feature pastors writing honestly about the varied challenges of faithful service.